February 12th, 2008

What The World Needs Now Is Love…Sweet Love.

Because the next couple of days will be filled with reminders and then the actual “Self-Love Day’" event, I thought I’d take a moment to talk about Valentine’s Day and all that goes with it.  For the sake of this post, we’re calling it “Pink Day” because you know me….I don’t like to say anything the right way.  By the way, since Pink Day is a day of giving your ultimate love, you better prove it!  Ya’ll bettah participate in “Self-Love Day” to show me how much you adore me.  Seriously, if you’re not going to go to Jared’s, then you owe me this, bitches ;).

People tend to view my mockery of Pink Day as the same thing as me hating the holiday but to that I say “nay nay”!  I neither like nor dislike the holiday as a whole and am probably the only person that finds the irony in the fact that St. Valentine was actually a martyr.  I mean really….it’s way off-base with regard to chocolate and flowers but when you think about how many people sit home feeling sorry for themselves because no one loves them?  Uhhhh, yeah.

And that, my friends, is where I become disillusioned with the notion
of having one day to celebrate your love.  While it’s great that some
people find the simple pleasure in this day and truly enjoy their time
with a significant other, the ones who have no one tend to feel “less
than” and left out for a whole damned day.  I mean seriously…if you
give a hoot about this sort of thing, Pink Day is the only holiday
where you can feel like you don’t belong if you’re single and alone.
How fucking depressing is that?

I know there’s a flip side, so don’t worry that I’m uber jaded.  There
are couples that enjoy the time together and who are also completely
capable of not even worrying about being all antidisestablishmentarianism
at the same time.  You know, people who actually comply rather than
bitch (they exist!)?  And then there are some couples who may slightly
acknowledge the day but don’t really feel pressured to do much about
it.  These are the people that feel that it’s just another day and that
every day should be a celebration of their love. Oooh, that reminds me
of a Simpsons quote:


Lenny: You must be some kind of marriage super-genuis; how about a few tips?.

Homer: Certainly, Lenford.  Make every day a celebration of your love;
surprise her with a pasta salad; put a mini beret on your wang.

Uh anyway, back to the subject at hand….

I just wanted to say to those of you who ARE single and ARE feeling
down in the dumpers because you’ve got no one this year….love
YOURSELVES.  Take February 14th and own it….find a way to make yourself
happy and realize that you don’t need someone else to bring the love.
Hell, go so far as to buy yourself chocolate and flowers (as long as
you are sharing the chocolate with me!). But above all else, remember
that one day does not make you worthy or unworthy of love.  I know that
it’s so hard to actually feel that way when the world around you is
swimming in pink linen but trust me….you CAN do it.

And besides, you always have “Self-Love
Day” to get you through….seriously, people saying
nice things about you makes the baby Jesus smile.

Tell-Me-Not Kisses,
Me

Posted in Silly Hilly | Comments (22)

22 Responses to “What The World Needs Now Is Love…Sweet Love.”

  1. sizzle Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 12:29 pm

    it’s strange for me this year as i finally have a significant other to dote on. i don’t do it out of pressure but because i like to and yet we’ve agreed not to put too much importance or attention on it. we try our best to shower each other with love every day. so count me in on self-love day!

    (that simpsons quote is going to have me chuckling all day.)

  2. Dagny Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 12:36 pm

    I usually manage to dump whatever sucker I’m dating right before VD. That way I don’t have to do anything. Oops. That sounded kind of cold-hearted, didn’t it? And I’m actually a hopeless romantic. Really. Stop laughing. But I don’t mind being alone on VD because it’s just some sucker’s loss. Hmm. Maybe I should stop calling them suckers.

    Oh, and I’m with Sizzle. Love the Simpsons quote. Someone should make cards with it.

  3. Nat Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 12:53 pm

    Dagny — the VD comment killed me. Coincidence with the initials… I think not!

    The man and I have been together for a very very very long time. And like most things traditional associated with love and relationships, we just sort of look at it and shrug, get on with life. Yanno?

  4. RW Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 1:55 pm

    See, where was Dagny before I got married? To have somebody dump you before you get VD is really sweet!

  5. diane Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 1:55 pm

    The fella and I are pretty mush-o-rama most of the time anyway. Still, I feel an obligation since I kind of blew him off last year! (we’d only been dating for 2 weeks, so I was like, pshhht, I’m hanging with my girl friends!)

  6. Dagny Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 2:15 pm

    OK. I’m cracking myself up now. I guess I should also stop calling the day “VD.” I knew it would lead to trouble one day.

  7. Kyra Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 2:49 pm

    There’s a reason they call it “Single-awareness day”. ;)
    I, on the other hand, hate Valentines day. It’s the most artificial icky holiday on the list. And pink. Ugh, no more pink.

    I do, however, LOVE buying a little chocolate something or other for my munchkins. But for myself? Let it pass. The only time I felt bad was in high school when all the *gigglegigllehairflip* popular girls has roses delivered to them in class. *gag*

  8. SwanShadow Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 3:15 pm

    Love means never having to say, “I think you need to make an appointment with your gynecologist.”

  9. Karl Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 3:53 pm

    I’ll be participating, much as I dread the actual day. I deserve it.

  10. teebopop Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 3:58 pm

    Sometimes love is buying your own flowers, your favorite chocolate, and extra batteries just in case.

  11. Bec Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 4:01 pm

    I love self love day. It’s such a shame it falls on the same date as that other holiday! It’s one of the major reasons I write a blog.

    Just trying to come up with a thing I like about myself now…

  12. Bully Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 4:21 pm

    I think the thing that people WANT, is the moment of feeling Special. The “specialness” of the Holiday, of someone loving you enough to DO something unasked, just-because they love you so much.
    Yeah.
    I have a love in my life, but even us marrieds have feelings of disconnectedness and isolation, and lack of joy-joy. Wouldn;t it be nice for the guy to go out this one day of the year, go to some trouble and plan flowers to surprise, or get a jewelry thing we don;t need, or a box of sweets for us or some nice surprise that is NOT just a card-Hi-I-picked-up-on-the-way-home.

    We ALL want that just little thrill of feeling special. A holiday just gives an excuse for it to maybe happen.

    It *won’t* happen for me, and that knowledge makes me a little sad, already. I’ll be honest. We all yearn for the romance, and the love. It doesn’t matter how many years together, honest.

  13. kapgar Says:
    February 12th, 2008 at 6:14 pm

    Ooh ooh, where can I find a mini beret??

  14. Erin Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 5:28 am

    GREAT advice!! I think I’m going to own tomorrow and have a really great self-love day :)

  15. furiousball Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 6:00 am

    i’ve got my mini beret ready, cam show tonight at 8

  16. John Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 6:29 am

    And then there are some couples who may slightly acknowledge the day but don’t really feel pressured to do much about it.

    They’re called married people (5 yrs. +).

    Hell, go so far as to buy yourself chocolate and flowers…

    I’m buying myself new furniture and a plasma TV. Then I’m having sex with myself. ; )

    Hey, I hear ya sistah. I think self love is great, but a little validation from someone else goes a long way. Happy VD. : )

  17. NYCWD Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 7:43 am

    I’m all about loving myself. Nightly if not more frequently in fact.

  18. TOWR Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 9:10 am

    I bought myself flowers for both home AND work! And I like the idea of chocolates, too… Hmmm… And to think I was just going to order a pizza!

  19. Miss Britt Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 10:05 am

    You know, people get all twisted up about Valentine’s Day because they don’t have someone who “loves them”.

    I think the world would be a really awesome place if we focused on having someone to love, instead of the other way around. And we can love lots and lots of people.

  20. SJ Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 11:02 am

    I really hope I can come up with something to write about tomorrow. It definitely will NOT be my will power. :(

  21. SJ Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 11:04 am

    Also, Typepad commenting is still teh suck.

  22. Shelli Says:
    February 13th, 2008 at 7:02 pm

    I’m doin’ it. I love you, Hilly. It will be up at midnight central time zone.

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