September 21st, 2009
Thought: It’s been almost exactly eight years since the last time that I had to “gag down” my food. This weekend ended up wrecking my guts so much that I’ve had a hard time swallowing food and/or even wanting to eat. While I’m happy for the easy weight loss helper, I know this is really not healthy for me. I’ve contacted my doctor about adding an anti-anxiety med back into rotation, just for a little bit.
Question: Has anyone out there ever done DivorceCare? They have a group at a local church and I’m thinking about trying it out. Um, both the group and the church.
Thought: You can’t take back the things you say. They cannot be swallowed nor can they be erased from the mind of the person to whom you said them. I know that people get angry and say hurtful things when that happens but I think we all need to be more careful. I definitely think about horrible things that I want to say to people and may even share those less than awesome thoughts with my best friends at times but my God, to say them to someone? It’s hurtful and hey, usually is done with that intent anyway. I’m just struggling with forgiving some stuff right now and quite honestly, I’m afraid that I’ll never find that forgiveness.
Question: Can anyone who knows anything about workouts give me a little help? What I want to know is this….you know how you start a new workout routine and you’re sore all over the place? Do you keep going and push past that intense soreness or do you give yourself a day of rest? I’m cool with whatever the real answer is here but I don’t want to harm my body either by overworking it or by allowing it to be lazy. Basically, I’ve started a workout rotation of cardio every other day then strength training every other day. My stomach muscles are so mad at me right now! Do I go ahead and keep on keeping on? That is what I *think* the answer is but hell if I know!
Thought: Back to this church thing…I was up at 6:00 am this morning researching churches in my area. You see, last night I promised myself that I would try really hard to pull myself out of my wounded state this morning and try anything and everything to move forward in positive directions. For me, one of those directions is finding fellowship in a local church. It’s not just about strengthening my connection to my higher power (although that is super important) but also about finding a church where I feel comfortable joining in activities, ministry projects, volunteering and outreach programs as well as bible studies, church socials and the like. I obviously need to fill my heart and head with meaningful endeavors.
Question: How many of you know about Snackie TeeVee? If you don’t, you should totally go there and subscribe now that Fall TV has started again!
Thought: I have amazing friends. I realized yesterday how truly blessed I am for the people in my life. All weekend, Foo Diddy has been virtually holding my hand through all of this emotional stuff and has been my rock. I called Britt up right after I got done talking to Shawn the other night and she listened to me sob uncontrollably and told me that she’d just listen while I cried and that I didn’t have to hang up. Davey-Joe probably gave me the best advice I’ve heard all year without even knowing that he was doing so. Adam, in his own way, is fiercely protective of me and constantly coaches me in the areas of letting him go. Faiqa reaches out to me when she knows I am insanely sad and offers for me to come over and find sanctuary in her knowledgeable and calm presence. My local friends all offered their love, support and a place to go when I needed to get out of my house. My long distance friends have called, emailed, sent me text messages and even have been all over loving me through Facebook or Twitter. And then there’s all of you and your love through blog comments. My point is this…I am loved and I am damned lucky to have that.
Thought AND Question: Halloween is rapidly approaching and every day I twist and turn because I haven’t found my costume yet! My original thought was to go as Snow White (which came about the moment I dyed my hair black and Britt called me Snow White). I’m having a hard time finding a plus-size Snow White costume that doesn’t come from the Whores-Are-Us bin, however. So, while I would like to be Snow White, I think I may end up being an Evil Queen or something quite like it. My question is…what are YOU going to be for Halloween?
Totally Non Sequitur Kisses,
Me
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September 21st, 2009 at 10:56 am
I think the church group stuff is a good idea. Finding one you’re comfortable with is the challenge.
As for workouts, yes you need to work through the soreness. It will subside as you continue. Just drink plenty of water before, during, and after your workouts and that will ease your muscle pain. The rotation sounds good.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 4:59 pm
It’s a good thing that I’m always a water drinking machine! It’s like I’m water’s bitch actually.
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:05 am
I know it’s a good thing that it’s been a long time since I was so upset that I couldn’t eat but it doesn’t feel as good as it should. I’m so f’d.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Eh, I remember days when I was on binge-athon #45 and I wished I could feel this icky about food.
Now that I do feel icky, I don’t like it.
Something something, grass being greener, something something.
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:18 am
Excellent idea about the divorce group. It certainly can’t hurt to try! Having community is good.
I’m so happy that you have a good support system both nearby and a phone call away. You are very much loved.
Yes on the day of rest between strength workouts (cardio you can do on your “off” days). You’ll still be sore, but you have to work through it. It will go away. Sore tells you you’re doing it right! Take some Advil or something. A warm bath with Epsom salts is good too.
I’ve been thinking about keeping this a secret, but what the hell (especially since I credit you with this idea): We’re going to be Wal-Mart People! I first saw the site when you shared a post from it and now Mister and I are both hooked.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:01 pm
Oh my, that is such a great costume idea! You two are going to be rockin’ like Dokken (or someone way cooler than Dokken, actually).
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:31 am
I love the idea of a support group! The worst that can happen is you try it and it sucks, right?
I have to tell you- when I commented yesterday, my daughter was like, “Yay, Snackie Sunday!”! Haha – she is obsessed with your site! And still has her Webkinz named after you. Bird’s got a helluva nice room!
You are so loved – it’s a wonderful thing, indeed.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:01 pm
Poor Z…I keep meaning to do a Snackie Sunday but then random drama comes every stinking Saturday. I should write one up this week and pre-post it so it actually goes live on Sunday!
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:35 am
From my own experience a little sore is good, but if you keep working out to the point where that soreness is uncomfortably compounded and you HAVE to stop then it becomes far too easy to just give it all up altogether.
Also, it helps if you have some sort of goal with a deadline to train for, like a 5K or something. For me I got on board with the 100 Push-ups and 200 Squats routines because they had a goal you have to reach at the end of the six weeks.
And, uh, I shop at Whores-Are-Us for all my costumes. Are you saying there’s something wrong with that??
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:03 pm
Wait, what about the “not going to be a fatass anymore” goal?
Seriously though, I am thinking about eventually training for a local marathon however for now, just doing it every day is a vast improvement on my life over the last five years so there’s that.
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:37 am
Hi. I know you will probably get this answered a lot but I definitely think you should stick with your workouts even though you are sore. BUT, if you are really sore, to the point where it is really painful, you may want to push your weights days back a day or two and just do light cardio (like easy walking). That will at least get your blood moving to those muscles, but it won’t cause any additional strain and it will help those microtears heal.
Halloween – I probably won’t think about that until the day before and then I’ll just be pissed at myself because I have nothing to wear.
I’m sorry to hear you had a rough weekend – I hope you are feeling better today. It’s raining here today and that always helps my bad moods. I guess that’s neither here nor there, but I thought you might like to know.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Oddly enough, rainy days make me happy as well. I think it’s because I hardly have been able to see them for the last howevermany years. I like it when the seasons change!
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:44 am
You have to work through the soreness, just make sure you’re not TOO sore. You may be pushing too hard too fast.
Right now my Halloween costume has no pants because they’re on backorder, but I’m going as myself – Buttercream, in full baker gear. Cross your fingers that my pants get here on time because they rock the disco! I’m going to wear them all the time after Halloween.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:05 pm
Haha, without pants, you’ll be like panic at the disco!
I think that’s a really cute idea, btw.
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:51 am
I’ve found that pretty much most Halloween costumes are of the whoreish nature. However, I won’t be doing Halloween this year, so I don’t have to worry about a costume.
Sore is good, to an extent. A little Advil should help relieve it. If it doesn’t, then you’ve done too much and need to rest for a day or two.
I think that the DivorceCare is an individual thing. It works for some and not for others. That being said, you get out of it what you put in. I say try it and see what you think. And good luck finding a church that fits your needs. I’ve been thinking about looking for one myself. I hate having that “something is missing” feeling.
Sending you big hugs and all kinds of good thoughts.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:07 pm
I think that I want to go into the DivorceCare thing looking for tools to cope with the loss more than anything else. I’ve spent a lot of time convincing myself that I wanted Shawn back when I don’t think that was true at all. I think the loss of having him weighs on me more than me wanting him in my life again, especially after the cruelty of his words pretty much made that little part of my heart that loved him unconditionally totally die.
So yes, you see, I need tools. Sheesh.
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September 21st, 2009 at 11:58 am
I think the DivorceCare idea is great. I know for me it has helped going to a counselor over the past few weeks, so I think a support group could be good. And the worst that can happen is you go and find out it’s not for you. But better to do that than not go at all, I think.
As for Halloween, I’m going as Magenta from Rocky Horror Picture Show. I went years ago when I was 16, and I think it’s time to bring her back. I’m already itching to start decorating my apartment, too, but I usually force myself to wait until October 1st.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:08 pm
Can you believe that in all of my years on this planet, I’ve never been Magenta? I must be one of the only people out there!
Also, I am really glad your counseling is helping you with your breakup. I hate seeing you heartbroken, sweetie.
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Tudor Rose Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:38 pm
I hate seeing it, too, but it’s definitely getting better!
And that does surprise me about Magenta. Perhaps you should consider it for next year?
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Tudor Rose Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 8:16 am
Okay. So I liked this post idea so much, I stole it:thoughts & questions
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:01 pm
I offer absolutely nothing in the way of wisdom on anything.
So there’s that.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Bah, yes you do.
When you say to someone, “you just go ahead and feel how you need to fill and no, you don’t need to find more pills because you need to feel this and get it out”, that is wise. When you offer your ear to someone who is sniffling like a fucking bawlbag in your ear, especially when you’re at the beach? That is kindness.
You offer much, grasshopper.
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Miss Britt Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 6:43 pm
Awwww, I am so awesome.
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:13 pm
I think you’re supposed to do a rotation for your muscles – do a different group of muscles each day when you’re doing strength training.
My Halloween Costume is most definitely from the Whores R Us bin and I love it.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:11 pm
I bet if I were thinner, I’d be all up on that Whores-R-Us thing. I mean, as it is, I am all good shoving my boobs in everyone’s faces. I just don’t want them watching my thighs wiggledy jiggeldy!
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Sheila (Charm School Reject) Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:12 pm
Dude. I’m all about the control top panty hose.
Otherwise, my thighs are all wiggly jiggly too.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:41 pm
I think I’d need double Spanx with a side of control top!
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:33 pm
I can’t help you in the workout and/or church-going arena, but I can still offer me and all of my awesome.
Oh, and yes, I read Snackie Tee-Vee. I reference it on a nearly-daily basis to set up my DVR.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:11 pm
You are my finest patron at Snackie TeeVee! Yanno, I should come out and hang with you sometime. Of course, I will just wait til you actually invite me rather than inviting myself like I am doing now.
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:37 pm
Church is really important to me too. I just feel better about myself when I have that time to connect with my community and myself every week. And it about finding a place where you can feel comfy to be yourself and get involved.
I think that Divorce group sounds good. I don’t know about it, but I don’t think it can hurt.
You sound like you are feeling a little stronger – which is fantastic.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:13 pm
Thanks, Karen. I actually am feeling stronger today than I had this weekend. I think that I needed to wallow and am now processing just how much of that incident was absolutely NOT okay with me. In getting angry that I allowed someone (no matter how well I know him) to talk to me that way, I found that inner strength again.
So uh yeah, now I need to find God.
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:39 pm
The DivorceCare thing sounds great..I say go for it.
With working out – my trainer would not let me do ab work daily or push past pain because she said you can totally pull a muscle there. She recommended having a workout day, then just walking or running on the alternate days. That way you’re still burning calories and keeping yourself moving.
I still have no idea what I’m going to be for Halloween and how I’m going to get there. I’ll be there if I have to don a whore costume to make enough money though. Haha…
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:14 pm
I’m thinking about doing my strength training today but just leaving abs out until day after tomorrow. Yes yes indeed, gotta do what I can.
I really hope you can make it after all! My house is Sugarpanties ready and waiting!
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September 21st, 2009 at 1:10 pm
You could always MAKE your Snow White costume by buying stuff at the Goodwill/Salvation Army/second hand stores!
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:15 pm
Hahahahahahahahahaha.
Obviously, I’ve not blogged about how I suck at all things crafty in some time. Sewing is so not my forte!
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September 21st, 2009 at 1:54 pm
I’m glad that you do have friends around who will support you and make sure that you’re doing okay.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Me too!
It makes me grateful that I moved here and am surrounded by awesomeness at this point in my life.
Of course, when I ditch you for California, just remember that I said that.
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September 21st, 2009 at 1:59 pm
Hiya Hilly, just thought Id add my two cents worth about the workouts. I personally hit a circuit gym 3 times a week…it’s mixture of cardio and strength training. There are people who insist they LOVE doing it 5 or 6 times a week…but really? sounds too much like work to me!!
Anyway, what the Curves people try to promote is that you must eat some protien within an hour of doing the strength training to repair the muscles that are screaming at you.
I would think that whatever is giving you the worst pain is the one you need to go easy on every other work out…like if the cardio winds you to the point that ya can’t breathe, then the next time you do it you take it a little easy and the next time after that try to up it a little and eventually none of it will bother you….but having said that…lol…there are people out there who believe that if you dont challenge yourself to the point of pain, you won’t get anywhere. I think it’s a crap shoot for the most part and all we can do is try to keep challenging ourselves a little at a time. Listen to what your body is telling you and don’t let your brain talk you into slacking just cos you hurt a little…everything in moderation til your used to it!
And I’m glad to see you have such a great support system in place as you try to muddle through all this pain. You look great by the way! Whatever your doing, it’s working!!
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:17 pm
Thanks so much for all of the workout advice – I really appreciate it.
Protein, water, ease of muscle use…check check!
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September 21st, 2009 at 2:12 pm
Try yoga in between! There is enough of a cardio workout in lots of styles that can warm up the your to be less sore. Also I think that last summer I would have gone completely off my noggin if it weren’t for yoga. Totally helps with heartaches and stress. What other place could you get your workout, cry cry cry at the end and have no one think it the least bit odd?
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:18 pm
I was doing yoga for awhile last month but I didn’t have enough core strength to maneuver. Of course, had I stuck with it, I’d probably have more core strength.
Jinkies.
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September 21st, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Sounds like you’re making all kinds of positive changes in your life. That’s good. Real good. I think most “experts” would tell you to work out hard one day and either take a break or do a light workout the next day. I think it’s different for each person. Maybe for you, it could be Hard, Light, Hard, off. A four-day rotation to give your body a break without turning on the laziness factor. Also, I’m pretty sure most “experts” would tell you to quit before getting hurt – you never want to hurt yourself. Good luck!
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:22 pm
I like your rotation! I think the only reason I don’t want to take a day off is because I am worried about slipping into one day turning to two turning to three, and so on.
However, I’m kicking the ass of the will-power monster so thanks for reminding me that I can rest and still stick to it!
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September 21st, 2009 at 2:39 pm
The support groups are great, but at some point I found I had to stop bitching and get on with living. It’s not easy. And yep, fell into the same stupid trap (well, ok, different one – but still feel stupid for letting it happen) again in the 2nd marriage.
Now I just pretend I’m single with kids. It’s much easier that way. Basically he’s like another child anyway.
Still, I’m here to listen (and join in) if’n you ever need to vent, whine, bitch, cry, whatever. I really wish we lived closer!
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:32 pm
I don’t plan on sticking with any support group that is solely about bitching. Since it’s run through the church, I hope the focus is more on healing and moving forward rather than bitching about our exes. Honestly, I’m not the type of person to do that because even though we’ve had some issues and this weekend was some fucked up shit, I totally have enough respect for my ex that I don’t feel that bitching about him over and over and over again is something I’d like to do.
However, healing my heart and myself? I’m so down with that.
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Kris Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:42 pm
I couldn’t do the church stuff. Long story, but wherever you are finding the support, as long as it works for you, then you’re ahead of the game.
Still, every now and again ya gotta get it out. KWIM?
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September 21st, 2009 at 2:40 pm
Thinking about Halloween – you could so be Snow White – with an evil twist if you liked…heh. Love it!
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:32 pm
Oooh you’ve given me an idea!
:witchypoo:
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Kris Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:40 pm
Exactly…heh.
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September 21st, 2009 at 3:01 pm
You definitely want to take a day off in between strength training sessions. Abs are a muscle group that you *can* work everyday, but if you are that sore, you definitely need to rest. During your rest is actually when the training takes affect in your body and muscles – they are sore bedcause they are healing, but they heal stronger which is how muscle is built. Make sure you have some protein about 30 minutes after you strength train, and drink a lot of water to help flush out lactic acid build-up.
Good job with the exericse. I like the DivorceCare / church idea. hang in there.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:33 pm
Okay so good…I’ve been doing it right. I do strength every other day then just do the cardio in between!
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September 21st, 2009 at 3:45 pm
Sadly, I don’t think I have a need for a costume this year. I want to dress our black cat, Momo, up as a bee and Wil as a beekeeper, however.
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:33 pm
Okay, you are my hero. I’ve been trying to dress up FC for years, poor thing.
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September 21st, 2009 at 4:38 pm
I have every intention of going as a ventriloquist dummy for Halloween. I’m pretty stoked about it
The only thing I don’t know yet is if I’ll be male or female. We’ll see 
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Hilly Reply:
September 21st, 2009 at 5:34 pm
Well, I’d say be a girl one. Of course, either way, you get to sit on Jay’s lap, right?
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September 21st, 2009 at 6:05 pm
I’m with Miss Britt. I have wisdom about NOTHING. But I love you. And that counts for…wait, hm, nothing. Sorry.
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:02 am
I’m sure you have wisdom about SOMETHING…maybe just not my crazy shit!
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September 21st, 2009 at 7:36 pm
I’m of little help in most life areas, but working out I can talk about. I’m of the camp that you should push past discomfort, not pain. So, if your butt is sore from squats, don’t do squats because that’d be painful, but do something else that will likely use those muscles but only cause discomfort, like biking. The soreness will go away as you get into a routine, of course, but if you increase time, intensity, etc. you’ll get it again temporarily so learning to work through and around it is important.
I think your plan sounds good– alternating workouts is smart because it’s doable long-term, which I think is the real key to any fitness routine. Burnout = not working.
Anyway, that’s my two cents. Hugs to you! It really sounds like you’re working through to a good place– that’s really something to be proud of. It’s huge!
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:04 am
Well you are a LOTTA help in the area of the workout so thank you very very much!
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September 21st, 2009 at 7:56 pm
I have not read everyone else’s comments, but I think you need to give your muscles a day to rest – work one group one day and another the next. Only work through it if the soreness is not too intense. Of course, you don’t want to do anything that makes your body feel too super sore, you want to build up to that level of intensity!
(says the girl who hasn’t exercised in a week!)
I hope the group and church are helpful! I am so happy to hear your love for your friends. It’s amazing how much better they can make the shittiest of days!
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:06 am
Friends make all of the difference. Not only do they listen to you cry but they also gently nudge you and say, “um hi, you’re so much better this person has treated you”.
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September 21st, 2009 at 8:52 pm
How much advice can one girl handle really.
Re: working out. There is a fine line between hurt and sore. I was told a full 24 hours between strength workouts to allow muscles to heal and build. Ditto on one day off a week.
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:06 am
I have to tell you that your comment made me gigglesnort last night when I read it. I dunno, that first line cracked me up.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 12:58 am
I haven’t read everyone else’s comments, but what my trainers have told me is that if you’re sore then you should workout, moving will get your muscles warm and stretched and you’ll actually feel better in the end. Even if you just do a “light” workout. If you are actually in pain and not just sore, then you should rest.
Also, lots of water – a gallon a day.
You’re not the only sore one…back to boot camp today. My triceps and hamstrings are already sore and it’s not even 24hrs later. Can’t wait to see what they feel like in the morning.
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:07 am
I did end up doing my strength training and ab work and while my abs felt like death during the workout, they are much better today.
Hrm, so pushing past the pain must work. Dammit.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 3:09 am
Hilly, As far as the workout goes if you are doing Strength training every other day try diving those days into upper and lower body days. And only work out your abs on one of those days.
Check out Body for Life workout plan it explains the way to balance strength and cardio. And they also have a new Body for Life just for women. I have not read that version. But the original was awesome. I cut my workout times in half and made my workouts more effective.
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:08 am
You know, I loved Body for Life in college. I actually have that book…maybe I should freaking read it!
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September 22nd, 2009 at 8:50 am
I wish I’d known you better before all this sad came into your life, but I’m thankful that I’m going to have the chance to know the person you are NOW…who, even raw and hurting, is still PRETTY DAMN FINE.
Sending extra hugs your way.
XOXOXO
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Hilly Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:09 am
Contrary to the genearl barfing of sadness that occurs on this blog, I am not sad all of the time. I think I just seem to write better when I am at my lowest and blogging becomes this huge therapy session for me.
Anypoodle, the hurt will all subside in time. I’m all about being happy and dancing around my living room.
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Anissa Reply:
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:48 am
Hey! Did you catch that we may be having an AL retreat in the panhandle courtesy of Shauna’s timeshare? So, practice your best living-room-dance routine because you can bet your ass we’ll expect to see it.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 10:57 am
I’m so glad to read that you know you are loved. Because you are! And worthy of every dollop of it.
I think forgiveness is a lot like grieving. It has its own pace so be patient with it.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 11:36 am
DivorceCare – definitely, yes!
Steve
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September 22nd, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Work through the soreness and if Tyler gets in gear, we’ll be Stormtroopers. Miss-Miss is going to be Snow White so you should totally come north and go trick-or-treating with her!
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:59 am
I can’t remember how I stumbled upon DivorceCare but I look forward to the emails everyday. It’s a slice of “holy hell other people have these feelings too?!”.
The great thing is that I found a church I really love through their website trying to find a church that offered it…the bad thing is that I haven’t joined the class because my schedule is so crazy and I’ve been out of town so much.
I don’t know how I feel about it, some days, I think it’s a phenomenal idea. and like you, I would love to learn tools on how to deal with everything. But then on other days, the thought of having to sit around with absolute strangers and talking about my crazy crazy life is just…scary. Well, there’s that and also the fear that it will be a lot of bitching and rehashing and negativity. But I’m just judging because really, I have no idea.
However, what has helped is a therapist. One on One. An hour a week. This shit doesn’t leave these four walls and I can tell you my deepest darkest fears and how angry and completely broken I feel and am. I have no choice but to talk to you even if I want to just hide and deny and pretend that I am happy and fine and okay. And some days it’s so so hard but most days, I walk out a mess but with so much more clarity and peace and understanding.
I’m pretty sure I started rambling somewhere between my second sentence but I thought I’d throw it out there anyway.
I think the most important thing is just finding what works best for you. try it…if it works…awesome. if it doesn’t, come bitch about it and we’ll find something else.
hugs.
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:54 am
With exercise, I give myself a day of rest and do something less intensive on rest days, like walk my dog. I feel there is good sore, and bad sore. If you are really sore, take a rest. If you are less sore the next day, go for it. It may even help work out some of the sore.
For Halloween, I want to go as a slutty vampire.
I probably won’t though. 
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