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All I Am Saying Is……

April 5th, 2008

Give peace a chance!

PLEASE PASS IT ON AND JOIN THE SnackiePeace Movement [© Dave2]

Missing You Kisses,
Me

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I Am A Poster Girl With No Poster…..

January 28th, 2008

Whenever I get a bit snarky and fed up with meanness,  I’m fond of telling the culprit that there’s a huge difference between being witty and being a totally heinous bitch.  Because we all know that to be true, right?

It’s a really hard balance to achieve and sometimes I feel as if I’m letting it slip away from me.  What if my tendency to always be sarcastic and funny is seen by someone else as me just being a pathetically bitch-assed whore?  I mean, I don’t think that’s me but what if it is and I just don’t know it, yanno?  And then there’s that saying…."sarcasm is the lowest form of humor".  Really?  *I* think there’s quite a bit of cleverness mixed in with my sarcasm, creating what I like to call "snarkasm".  But I can see how someone who doesn’t understand me might not love me so much.

I’ve thought about this a lot, can you tell?

For me, the difference between being witty and being a bitch is easy…it’s in the intent.  Were I ever to purposely set out to be cruel and hurt someone’s feelings, that would make me a snatchy-la-la for sure.  However, if I’m just joking around with my BFFs and other fine folk who like me, are very tongue-in-cheek, and someone gets offended?  Please just tell me rather than talk about me behind my back.  Chances are that I don’t even know youve taken what I’ve said personally because honestly…I hang out with people whose senses of humor move a million miles a minute, which is even faster than mine.

I never laugh at anyone else’s expense unless it is good natured ribbing or they deserve it (that’s a joke, see?).   I don’t set out to hurt anyone and if I do, I like to immediately apologize.  And most of my sarcastic remarks are highly self-deprecating.  Okay then, check check check.

This post is serving as a moral inventory of sorts because someone called me heartless earlier.  Me?  Heartless?  Tell me if I’m wrong but I don’t think that’s me at all.  It kind of makes you sit down and question yourself for a moment when someone says something like this to you.

Then again, one has to consider the source.

My Heart Is A Marshmallow Kiss,
Me

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I Feel Like I Can Fly When I Stand Next To You….

January 17th, 2008

There are some people in this world that make me feel lighter than air when I am around them….like I could soar away on laughter or keep afloat merely by the light that emanates from them.  It sounds cheesy and all that but I’m not quite sure how else to describe it without sounding like a Bronte sister.  I do know that it’s a true rarity that I find such people in my life so I like to recognize it and cherish it when I do.  Yet, while it’s a great thing to allow yourself to be drawn to such people and hopefully light up their lives in some small way, it causes the symptom of over-protectiveness to kick in whether they want it or not.

Let me tell you, the few BFFs that I have can all take care of themselves and I’m under no sort of deluded notion that they need me in their corner as The Great Defender.  So why is it that every time someone even mildly has something negative to say about my friends it becomes The Peacekeeper Wars up in this bitch?  I’m always trying to defend my friends and explain "what they meant by that" or "why they would do such a thing".  The sad truth of the matter is that I don’t really know why my friends do what they do unless they tell me.  I guess that there is just that part of me that knows certain people would not have harmful intentions so when they get slammed for just being who they are, I get a little bit like a lioness…rawr!

I’ve come to realize that one woman’s trash is another one’s treasure.  Oh my god, did I just call my friends "trash"?  I may need to rethink my clichés here for a moment….but you know what I mean, yeah?  Just because someone makes my heart smile does not mean that others can see the same things I see in them.  And that, my dears, is what makes this world such an interesting and diverse place.  So I think I’ll start working on my first change of the new year (besides losing weight, thank you, cause I’ve already lost 7 pounds).  I’m going to stop trying to make people see things my way and/or defending the universe.  I’m going to let the universe defend itself and I’ll just sit back and hold its hand when its done.  Or maybe I’ll bake it cookies…..

Learning To Let Go Kisses,
Me

PS….speaking of great people, both Miss Britt and Kentucky Girl have birthdays today.  Happy Birthday ladies!

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Happy New Year To All And To All A Safe Night!

December 31st, 2007

If I could literally kiss each and every one of you, I would.  Mind you, I don’t mean that in a whorey way….just a kiss on the cheek for most of you.  A couple of you might just want to ignore the fact that I’m licking you all over, thanks.

Seriously though, this has been one shit eating bitch of a year for me but I made it through!  It just goes to show that not all euphemisms truly do suck…yanno cause that which did not kill me really did make me stronger.  I’m ready to kick some ass right now…not just after the clock turns midnight.  I’ve honestly been improving myself over the last week or so by taking life by the balls rather than letting it kick me repeatedly in my "no-no place". I will be alone as I ring in the new year but only in body.  In spirit, I will have everyone that loves me and has touched my heart fully over the course of the last year.  I mean, I had some major people supporting me in every way possible, especially over the last six months.  For that, I cannot tell you how much I love you.  I’ve been lucky to make many new blog friends as well as real life friends that come from the heights of the PRB itself!  It’s been all about friendship and my leaning on you all for support this last year and I am grateful for every moment.

Happy New Year, Beyotches!

When I come back in the new year, we’ll talk about how I am "Bringing Hilly Back" in a major way and we’ll get to see the rest of my "What’s New?" series.  But until then, I leave you with a wish for a very safe and happy evening!  The best to you all!!!

Buh Bye Bitch of 2007 Kisses,
Me

 

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100 THINGS ABOUT ME: Friendship

November 9th, 2007

I’m still trying to define who I am….on some fronts it’s pretty easy while on others, not so much.  I decided that a great way for me to start looking at myself, inside and out, was to do one of those "100 THINGS ABOUT ME" lists as so many others have done.  Like a few other people, I am going to break it down into categories.  Today’s first ten items are all about me and some views on friendships and such…..so enjoy!

1.  It takes a miniature piece of nothing to annoy me, but it takes a whole helluva lot to actually make me angry.  Once you’ve pissed me off that badly, it’s hard to repair the damage that’s been done.

2.  Conversely, I am extremely loyal.  Once I take you into my crazy little patchwork heart, you are forever in there and I will protect, defend, love and do right by you pretty much forever.  Even if you are an asshole, I will still stand by your side then tell you later that I think you were being an asshole.

3.  Although it doesn’t seem like it, I am pretty picky about who I am really close friends with.  I love everyone and have a level of friendship that goes along with that but the one thing I must have in order to share all of me with you?  The ability to trust you.

4.  Even though I pretend not to be, sometimes I am jealous of people for being better, prettier or smarter than I.

5.  I’ll often tell someone exactly what I think about them, even if I know it kinda freaks them out.  The thing about that is…you have to listen to my words and not try to find hidden meaning.  I don’t do "hidden meaning"….I’ll just tell you what I need to tell you.

6.  Number five is partially a lie (heh).  There are some things I don’t tell some people because I don’t know how to say them or if I should.  This isn’t often, but sometimes….

7.  I sometimes question whether or not people really like me or if they just pretend to because we have mutual friends in common.

8.  I keep everything that everyone has ever given me…this includes cards, gifts, mementos, etc.  I also have a very succinct filing system for these things, which borders on "anal".

9.  I find it much easier to be friends with men than with women.  Of course, there are exceptions to this rule but throughout life, I have always been into men….yanno, as friends ;).  Well as other stuff too but I don’t think that applies in this section of the "100 Things".

10.  I’m pretty sure that I love you more than you love me….but that’s okay.  I don’t love with contingencies and ultimatums…..my heart opens as wide as it wants to and accepts how much or how little you can give back.  Also, the fact that I am convinced of this is really telling of other things….hell, people probably do puffy heart me as much as I do them but they just show it differently.  I am well aware that could very well be the case 75% of the time.

Friendship Bracelet Kisses,
Me

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Day Four: Happy November!

November 1st, 2007

Ahhh November….I’ve always liked this month, mostly because it starts out with my birthday and ends with gorging on dead bird laced with processed berries in sauce.  Yanno, other things happen in November like Election Day, leaves falling from the trees and the annual Pilgrims vs. Indians pageant at your kid’s school.  These things have been set in stone for as long as I’ve lived and they are the tradition of November.

However now…we have new traditions.  Just in case you are not busy enough with working, exercising, watching teevee, family life, personal stuff, light blogging, twittering, FaceBooking, projects and shopping for Christmas, you can sign up to take part in NaNoWriMo, NaBloPoMo, HotDogLowFlow, or BlowPopProHo.  Okay so some of those are made up, but still….you’re totally picking up what I’m putting down, right?  I know that NaBloPoMo goes hand in hand with blogging, but my God…the pressure.  When I force myself to write every day, more crap comes out of my mind than not…yanno, sort of like this week.

All of this has got me thinking about technology and a subject I wanted to talk about last month but never got around to.  There are so many vices and devices available on the Wide Wide World of Web these days that I feel I never have to leave the comfort of a whirring gadget in order to have full on relationships with my friends.  The same people that are reading my blog and vice versa?  Yeah, we’re friends on Face Book, MySpace, Flickr, Twitter and then on top of that, some of us email and text each other on a regular basis.  We’re all up in each others hoobastank as much as can be without physically sitting in a room and talking to each other.  Awhile back, I thought this was kind of a depressing thing in a way…still do.  But realistically, I now realize that sometimes this technology is the only way that I can keep up with some of my favorite people since we live so far away from each other. 

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Who Do You Need When You Come Undone?

October 10th, 2007

I’m sorry that there is no video post today as I had sort of promised.  I’ve been sitting here crying for about a half hour and there’s no way in hell that I’m going to pretend to be perky and cute for a webcam now. 

When life is rough, strong people do the best they can to just endure it.  Optimistic people do their best not only to endure it but to find strength and happiness in something, anything.  We need to believe that things can only get better so we smile and we dance like good little puppets until we resolve ourselves to believing that it’s all okay.  While there is nothing wrong with trying to stay positive and looking for the good in a sea of bad, there’s a level of dysfunction that accompanies the whole thing.  Some part of the poison doesn’t get expelled and if you don’t recognize that and deal with it, suddenly after a month the walls come crumbling down and there’s that straw and that camel and something to do with its back.

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The Line In The Sand When I Go Too Far

October 9th, 2007

I’ve been doing so wonderfully at eating well and moving my ass lately but yesterday that came to a very loudly obnoxious screeching halt.  To be fair, it started with Sunday night and the great Trader Joe’s debacle.  You see, since the dawn of time (or, since the dawn of me shopping at TJ’s), I’ve wanted nothing more than to try their mini chocolate-chocolate bundt cakes.  I’ve always managed to avoid them, knowing that the calories and fat in one of those fuckers could feed me for a week.  But I did it, took the plunge, tasted the chocolate and you know what?  They weren’t half as good as I’d thought they would be.  All of that build up and I was left deflated and disappointed.  Mind you, that didn’t stop me from eating the damned thing.

Yesterday, I made an impromptu decision to visit SJ and have a girls afternoon of lunch and erm, pie.  I hadn’t eaten anything too heinous at lunch and as SJ is always fond of saying, I played with my food more than I ate it.  I think I get that way when I am talking about a subject or two that really captures my interests and makes my "eyes dance".  Ahem, anyway….it was great to get out with her and just completely shoot the shit without the barriers and walls that I have to put up around so many other people.  If you took my quiz yesterday and came to the conclusion that my really close friendships are few yet arbitrary, you would have been correct.  Each person that I am close with brings something to my life that I really respect, love and need and I hope that I do the same in kind.

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